Baby Dumping :(

CHILD is a priceless gift from Allah SWT. However, baby dumping is a social crisis and has a chronic increase as many cases are occurring in Malaysian society. The baby dumping refers to discarding or leaving alone, for an extended period of time, a child younger than 12 months of age in a public or private setting with the intent to dispose of the child.

                       

Mostly,among teenagers always seen to be involved in this situation. Teenage parents give birth in a motel room and leave the child for dead in a dumpster. A girl gives birth in a school bathroom at night. throws the baby into the garbage or in the toilet.

One factor that leads to child dumping is teenage pregnancy. Teenage pregnancy is defined as a teenage or underage girl becoming pregnant.This pregnancy of teenagers are a mere result of the gratification of sexual urges. That pregnancy might not happen only if studies were prioritized rather than having relationships with the opposite sex. No premarital sex, no early pregnancy. Worst thing about this is that it is the child that will suffer. If not aborted, they are dumped by their biological parents.

Another factor is the family break-up. Family break-ups happen after a long period of misunderstandings, fighting and unhappiness. Sometimes they happen suddenly and it is hard to understand why there needs to be change at all. Children are mostly affected by this kind of situation. If both their mother and father decided to a divorce and one cannot raise their child alone, tendency is that they will dump their child. This child will become homeless and found himself alone.

Poverty is also another factor that causes child dumping. Persons in cultures with poor social welfare systems who are not financially capable of taking care of a child are more likely to dump him/her. Political conditions, such as difficulty in adoption proceedings, may also contribute to child dumping, as can the lack of institutions, such as orphanages, to take in children whom their parents cannot support. Societies with strong social structures and liberal adoption laws tend to have lower rates of child dumping. 

Impoliteness vs Youth

Assalamualaikum & Hye :)

For this entries, i would like to share about the

" Impoliteness Among Youth "

The younger generation or " Y Generations " has been exposed and introduced to an advanced technology since kindergarten school. On top of that, the negative culture is constantly involved with modernization. 

It seems more and more teenagers are inclined to acted disrespectfully toward adults. The notion that youth should respect to their elders had almost forgotten

Becoming a teenagers brings with a host of new emotions, attitudes and behaviors. As kids age 13 - 19, they often experiment with language to express their boundaries and talk back to other people.

:: Terms of Impoliteness ::

 

There are various terms that refer in some way to the notion of impoliteness.

 Rude is often used as a synonym of impolite , and of course both these terms have other synonyms.

• Impolite = disrespectful, distasteful, pushy, disloyal, nosy , ill-mannered, unbecoming, inconsiderate, unladylike, etc..
• Rude =  arrogant , selfish , obnoxious , cruel , sarcastic , stupid , ignorant , nasty , insensitive , disrespectful , abusive

Same goes to dictionary : [...] impoliteness, communicative strategies designed to attack face, and thereby cause social conflict and disharmony [...] (Culpeper et al. 2003: 1546)

:: Factors Cause :: 

Parent-teenager problem

• The relationships between these two different generations are full of problems and conflicts but parents are the last people who see changes in a growing child. So they still treat them like little kids. They don’t recognize that their children should be treated in another way now and need more freedom and choices.

• Lack of discipline from parents should be concerned because the early educations are comes from the attitude of the parents-self. 

• Modern families are more focused on their careers and has limit time for teenagers when come home. Some of teenagers are like to stay up with friends and prefer to come home late. So parents are so worried and give punishment when return home.

 Influence of Friends

• Friends are the closest people who they spend time more than parents. Therefor, they give a big impact to their whole life. Teenagers are like to follow the trends of surrounding. Some group of teenagers will study or attend to any activities if his friends like to do so. Its such a good influence but what we need to be concerned is the negative influence. The teenagers will not depends on their own decision but to his friends. 

• Now more than ever, teens are mimicking the disrespectful and disobedient attitude. They observe others being rude to their friends and parents, so they in turn do the same.

Lack of School Discipline

• The same attitude is used toward parent are used against at school officials. Teacher should enforce more disciplinary action against these rude teens so as to make them pay for their lack of respect.

 Media

• We see more and more disrespectful teenagers on TV because it is entertaining to watch. However, this should not be good for our future society's behavior that will impact to our little kids. 

• Some of TV shows portraying bad influence trough scenes of fighting or killing by joining gangsters, bullies and others. For example, a popular film from Japan ' Crows Zero '. By televising such acts, it is promoting these behaviors, hence more of it.

:: Fix the Problem ::

All these are causes of the problems. the teenagers now days will give a big changes and impacts to our futures.

But how can we resolve them?

there are some easy ways to fix this matter :

1. Communicate. Parents and teenagers should talk and convince each other of their opinions and thoughts then together find a solution for both sides. Go to family counseling. It can be a good way to open up communication between parents and teenagers.

2. Do things together with parents or friends. Find a good way to full up our time with a positive energy . Recognize that we have the power to heal our self.  That healing power flows from the thoughts we think.  Allow positive thoughts to circulate, eliminating stress and boosting our immune system such as camping, sports, community service and others.

 

*************************************************************************

Teenagers must end this form of verbal abuse because if this behavior persists, our teens will form into a generation filled with insolence.

Be grateful in life. Enjoy our life and studies.

Give more attention our place on what we don’t want in our life, the more energy it absorbs.   Remove our attention from the dis-ease.  Put a good focus and attention on the things in life that make we feel good.